Janna Colaco Certified Hypnotherapist Blog

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  • Spring into your Summer Body

    It’s easy to find motivation and enthusiasm when we reset our subconscious programming

    Body image can be a sneaky, tricky thing.  On the one hand, we want to be beautiful, fit, and let’s be honest— skinnier.  On the other hand, aren’t we supposed to love our body as we are, lumps and all?  Isn’t it shallow to want physical beauty?  Is it not more spiritual to be totally self-accepting regardless of our size?


    Certainly beauty is more than skin deep.  Pause for a moment and bring to mind someone you admire who is radiantly beautiful, yet on closer inspection, their beauty has nothing whatsoever to do with flawless skin, boob size, or perfect features.  


    Where is their beauty coming from?  A cheerful disposition, perhaps? A lightness of being, a sense of humor, an easy-to-be-with attitude?  Could it be self esteem, being comfortable in their own skin?— might these be the missing ingredients?


    “A good attitude isn’t enough!  I want to LOOK GOOD!” our inner diva shrieks.  Can we have both?  Yes, yes and emphatically yes!


    Let’s examine our beliefs:


    Thinking Error #1:  “I must love and accept my fat body; it’s what’s inside that counts.” 


    Wrong, wrong and wrong!  Being unhealthy is NOT self-love. Avoiding outdoor activities is NOT healthy. 


    In most cases, a defense against rejection is the culprit.  The most common reason for weight gain is overeating to squash chronic low-grade anxiety or feelings of dread.  


    In NO WAY is accepting oneself as fat a spiritual value, yet more and more of the time, I hear would-be spiritual-types hiding behind their ‘enlightenment’ as a way to justify giving up.


    What is spiritual?  Self care. Loving oneself enough to participate in life. So ask yourself this:  Do I love myself enough to move my body and feed it with love and respect?


    Thinking Error #2:  “It’s going to be hard.  I’m going to feel exhausted and deprived.”  


    That happened in the past.  But in the subconscious mind, anything is possible.  The preparation of healthy foods can be the best part of our day.  Exercise can be re-wired as something to look forward to.  Motivation can be re-wired to feel exhilarating.


    Thinking Error #3:  “I have to give up carbs.”  


    This is a societal collective belief.   So is war, for that matter.  You don’t have to buy in to the popular opinions of culture.  Smell, see and taste a tangerine.  Carbs are meant to be eaten!  If you think they cause inflammation, well, they do if you believe they do.  That’s how powerful your mind is.


    Overcoming chronic, low-grade anxiety is the number one weight loss and beauty miracle.  When anxiety goes, we are more present, radiant and joyful. We are far more motivated to eat well and participate in life, and life truly belongs to those who participate. 

  • The Inner Alchemy of Spring

    Discarding outdated thinking habits can clear our inner closet and make space for compassion and love.


    Last week I found myself spontaneously buying paint for the living room.  The cashier complemented my color choice, and remarked on how many people were spring-painting their walls!


    Spring is our time to remove stale clutter and shed what is no longer needed.  A gentle breeze through an open window, soft sunlight, or the scent of fresh flowers can move us forward with enthusiasm toward a clean new perspective.


    While we clear the garden, pantry or closet, springtime offers us an opportunity to release ineffective beliefs and outdated thinking habits.  


    Some of my favorite habits to discard this Spring include:


    Questioning others’ motives.  It’s inevitable we will encounter difficult people again and again.   The proverb, “Never judge a person until you’ve walked a mile in their moccasins” reminds us we are all here for different experiences, and we shall never truly understand the path of another.


    We can never know for sure “why” someone behaves as they do.  Perhaps they have suffered.  Or maybe they took a vow to forget their own divinity in this lifetime, playing the role of villain so that we might overcome a fear or strengthen a gift. 


    Questioning others’ motives never provides the relief or closure we seek.  If we count up all the hours spent analyzing, labeling or attempting to make sense of others, we notice an increase, rather than a decrease, in our own confusion, frustration or hurt.  


    When possible, assume good intentions.   Hold them accountable by questioning only their judgement.  Their actions are under your scrutiny, not their motives.  This shift in perspective leaves their soul’s dignity and goodness intact.  This practice allows us to move toward compassion and understanding with even the most difficult souls.


    Perfectionism.  When we release perfectionism in favor of excellence, we choose self-love and worthiness.  The perfectionist who hides under baggy clothing at the beach, waiting to lose that last ten pounds, misses out on the joy of swimming and playing in the sand.  Better to shed the cover-up and participate!  Excellence implies living life to the fullest… even when we aren’t perfect.  Foregoing perfectionism takes courage.  Releasing self-consciousness is a powerful choice that frees us to create memories that last a lifetime.


    Being right.  Insistence on being right can derail personal growth.  Being right by definition automatically implies others are wrong.  The heightened energy we feel as we argue, upon closer inspection, derives its fervor and urgency from our deepest fears.


    Letting go requires courage and trust in the universe.  We release the need for things to go our way.  We can calmly offer our opinion while allowing others to do the same.  


    Outdated feelings of urgency, threat and fear are revealed as smoke and mirrors. ‘Let it go!’ becomes our mantra.  Internal windows open, cleansing mind and body, and we move forward with renewed enthusiasm for life.


  • Weight Loss and Hypnosis: A Love Infusion

    Janna, how does hypnosis and weight loss work? On the conscious and subconscious levels simultaneously. It heals and comforts. It creates courage and motivation. Feeling secure and relaxed is a huge part of achieving ideal weight.

    What kind of a diet plan do you use? Each client is unique, but in a nutshell, quality over quantity. You eat the freshest foods in season, using all the senses simultaneously. In hypnosis, we can train your subconscious to become satisfied from the look, smell, texture and flavor of the food. Very little is eaten to feel incredibly full… yet the food is delicious! I don’t let my clients eliminate entire food groups or spend three hours at the gym. That’s not love, it’s punishment.

    Can you hypnotize me to stop craving junk food? Yes, we certainly want to eliminate processed foods! But we still keep the indulgences in moderation.

    That sounds great, but doesn’t indulgence sometimes bring thoughts of binging?Binging feels terrible! There’s nothing indulgent about feeling stuffed, fat and sick. In hypnosis, we can make a little of the good stuff go a very long way. Do we eliminate chocolate? Absolutely not! Two bites of high quality chocolate is immensely satisfying.  You will feel full with less.

    Explain what you mean by “love-infused eating.” About twenty years ago, my kids and I were talking about my aunt’s cookies. They weren’t much to look at and the recipes were simple. But Aunty cooked with love, and you could taste the difference. We were on vacation and my son said, “Mommy, the cook put love in my hamburger!” It became a game to identify the love in food.

    How does this “love-infused eating” work with hypnosis? Not only do we energetically infuse our own food with love as we prepare and eat it, we also hypnotize the subconscious to receive love and self-care. We treat meal time as sacred… never eating standing up, in front of the TV, or in the car. When we feel loved and valued, we would never over-stuff ourselves or eat from boredom.

    It sounds like I have to cook and eat on plates! To be perfectly honest, yes. Loving yourself implies investing energy into yourself. So, for instance, I could hypnotize you to love cooking, because that’s good for you. I could hypnotize you to make meal preparation the best part of your day. My favorite thing is to collect beautiful antique china and grow my own roses to set on the table. I’ve used self-hypnosis to receive love from the dishes, flowers and food.

    Do you coach your clients about exercise or just diet? Yes, I use the same indulgent strategy. I don’t advocate spending three hours at the gym or marathon training. Ouch! But they are encouraged to take mindful nature walks and absorb the beauty around them. Twenty minutes of walking on the beach or playing in the pool is all that’s needed.

    Janna Colaco, C.Ht., is a Clinical Hypnotherapist and Master Therapeutic Imagery Facilitator practicing in downtown Fullerton. She has coached motivational transformation since 1986. Janna is a Healing Minister, NLP Practitioner, Reiki Practitioner and Yoga Teacher. You can reach her at 714-269-6908 or at jannacolaco@mac.com, and mechanicsofgrace.com.

  • MASTERING THE LAW OF ATTRACTION WITH HYPNOSIS

    The Law of Attraction is an amazing yet elusive tool for most of us.  What would we like to create?

    A healthier body?

    Love?

    Positive thinking habits?

    Money?

    Creativity?

    Beautiful home/lifestyle?

    Happiness?

    If you have ever seen The Secret, or listened to Abraham, the concept of creating your own dreams seems simple.  When it comes to manifesting your desires, there are only a couple of basic skills required: 

    1)  Visualization of the happy outcome, and

    2)  The tricky part... feeling emotionally good... really good... ecstatic even... so that our feelings are in alignment with the positive result, as though it's already happened.

    So I have a question:  How easy is it for you to feel better when you've just lost your partner in life, or lost your job, or had some unexpected curve ball thrown at you, and you need the Law of Attraction the most?  Can you 'climb up the emotional scale' and feel abundant, happy and loved when you're consumed with being worried, afraid, in the pit of despair?  

    It sucked for me too, for the longest time.  Thankfully, hypnosis (or 'the missing link' as I like to call it) came to the rescue for me time and time again.  I like to think if Forrest Gump were a real person, he would probably say that Hypnosis and the Law of Attraction go together like peas and carrots.

    Back when I worried for a living (I kid, I kid!), or rather, jumped like a monkey from one worry-tree to the next, I would regularly confuse angst and yearning, or wanting and needing, with the Law of Attraction.  When I'd meditate on what I wanted, nothing good would come, just more wanting and yearning, wanting and yearning, wanting and yearning.  I just couldn't get my emotions to feel good, and I really tried, so, so hard!  All that trying hard never worked, so the Law of Attraction thing would typically backfire in my face or land squarely on my thighs.

    So I went to my amazing mentor, a hypnotherapist who's been teaching and practicing for many years, and had her put my crying, sniveling self in a deep trance, where I let her work me into a state of genuine great feeling, with my heart bursting with love, and tears of gratitude rolling down my cheeks... I experienced and felt the immense relief, the releasing and letting go of worry on an emotional level.  At which point the results came!  Every.  Single. Time.

    I'm happy to say, life is great.  I continue to visit my mentor every month or two, because things are unfolding and manifesting so quickly I continuously find myself in new and uncharted waters.  And when I get myself in alignment, the Law of Attraction brings me just the right clients at just the right time in their lives for me to help them with the exact same thing.  It's uncanny!

    If you know someone who could use a boost with the emotional side/vibrational energy part of the Law of Attraction, please pass my information along to them.  And if you're in the Fullerton, CA area on the 29th of July 2017, we're having a Law of Attraction group workshop that Saturday evening from 7:00 to 9:00 pm at Purple Yoga on Amerige Ave.  Or you can drop me an email for a more personalized appointment here in the office.  As Einstein said, "Everything is energy and that's all there is to it.  Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality.  It can be no other way.  This is NOT philosophy.  This is PHYSICS."

  • Are Past Life Regressions Real???

    I can't believe I'm actually opening up this whole 'past-life' can of worms.  Oh well.

    As a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, every once in a while, I'll get a phone call asking me to conduct a past life regression.  The requestor is usually convinced their current-life problem stemmed from some old, unresolved issue in a past life.   I have been trained in this area, and I've facilitated numerous past life regressions (PLR's), for both individuals and groups.  I found out early just how passionate and downright angry people get regarding this fascinating topic.  They are either passionately angry for it, or passionately angry against it.

    The Believers in Past Lives (henceforth referred to as BIPLs) are certain, beyond all doubt, that past lives are REAL, dammit, and anybody who doesn't believe as they do are a bunch of old-fashioned, fundamentalist, right-wing, meat-eating whacko's who "just aren't evolved."  (They usually declare this with a Yogier-Than-Thou arch to one of their eyebrows.)   BIPLs want to be right about their own enlightenment.  Many BIPLs are vegan and gluten-free.  I generalize, but you get the picture.

    On the flip side, we have the Disbelievers in Past Lives (henceforth referred to as DIPLs).  DIPLs are just as convinced they are right, and, with God on their side, they are poised for Holy Battle.  DIPLs wonder why this hooey wasn't stamped out once and for all back in Salem, Massachusetts years ago.  To a dyed-in-the-wool DIPL, the topic of Past Life Regression is closed for discussion. Period, end of sentence.

    What BIPLs and DIPLs don't get is that they are mirror images of each other... both are narrow-minded, stuck and positioned.  Many BIPLs have given up their childhood religions to embrace their "spirituality" but have turned that spirituality into a rigid belief system reminiscent of the one they left behind.

    Inevitably, I'm asked by both camps about MY OWN personal beliefs on the topic.  The BIPLs assume I'm on their side.  

    The truth is, I don't know.  The truth is, none of us knows, not really.  We suspect, we hope, but we don't know.  Past lives fall under the heading of "Mystery."  Mysteries are frustrating!  Human beings want answers, not mysteries!  We want to be right about our beliefs!  We want to be seen as enlightened, saved, or both!  But we just don't know.  Not for sure, anyhow.  

    Luckily  NOT knowing is the most positive, most powerful, place to stand.  As a Healer, I must stand in the mystery... the twilight... the in-between... avoid temptation to try to put the fullness and richness of a client's experience into a box with a label.  I must avoid categorizing, conjecturing and pigeon-holeing ideas, experiences, research and beliefs.  Too much "knowing" and not enough "mystery" flattens and robs an experience of it's magic, it's love, it's most profound essence.

    Every major religion in the world believes in "the Mysteries" in some form or other.  Catholics are familiar with the Creed, "We believe in one God, the Father, the Almighty... the Maker of Heaven and Earth...of all that is seen and Unseen."   That "Unseen" part refers to the Mysteries.   Mysteries are prevalent in other branches of Christianity, too.  Judaism, Hinduism, Buddhism, Islam and other religions all contain references to the Mysteries.  

    In all faiths, the word "Mystery" is a good thing.  In metaphysics, it is representative of the unseen dimension.  "Faith" is another signpost that comprises mystery.  Faith must come first before evidence is experienced.  From the Latin comes the phrase popularized by the Holy Order of Servite:  "Credo ut Intelligam" which means  "I believe, so that I might understand."

    In the study of metaphysics, suspension of rigid right/wrong beliefs and experiencing the expansion of presence is what reveals the fourth dimension and allows deep peace to manifest. 

    Take the magic of Santa Claus!  The wonderment about Santa made our Christmases sparkle... there was almost an electrical charge to the atmosphere when we were children.  The richness of it, the openness to possibility... that's what was important.  Remember when we found out Mom and Dad put the presents under the tree?  Remember the flatness?  It wasnt that there were fewer presents.  It wasn't that Santa was gone, we'd never seen or met the guy anyway!  We were asleep!  lt was the magic of mystery and wonderment that left.  Our childlike unbridled openness to the mystery... that's what mattered and created joy!

    I'm asked, "Hey Janna, don't you need to believe in past lives to facilitate a past life regression?"  

    And the answer is this:  to make my client's experience effective and fruitful, I must do two things:  one, supply the love and unconditional positive regard for their transformation, for what they want, without muddying their waters with my own belief system; and two, neither believe nor disbelieve... I must stand, firmly, in the mystery.  If I were to burden you with stories of why I believe in past lives, spelling out evidence, citing research, clinical studies and accounts, it would actually flatten your experience and ruin it -- it would be dimensionally reduced for you somehow.  So how can PLR help people?  You decide.  Here are a couple examples.

    Years ago, a man came to one of my teachers and told her he wanted to visit his past lives to rid himself of his fear of spiders.  In hypnosis, he recalled one particular life where he was "murdered" by a large number of spiders.  (Think Ron Weasley in the Forbidden Forrest with Aragog and family.)  Was it real?  Who knows?  The point is, that man was able to move forward without being afraid of spiders anymore... in his own way, he figured out his personal "why" and, with his question answered, was able to deal with spiders easily after that.  Was the PLR simply a subconscious fantasy? Was it a bona fide past life? Does it matter?  NO!  What matters is the poor guy can let go of his fear of spiders now!  That's all that really counts!

    Another client (different case-history) was one of those good-looking, non-committal type of men.  Mid-40's, he'd never married.  He'd had a plethora of steady girlfriends, but always dumped them at the last minute when things got serious.  He went to his hypnotherapist for months.  No matter what hypnotic techniques she used, she couldn't get rid of his fear of commitment.  The guy was convinced a past life was to blame for his non-committal, womanizing ways.  His hypnotherapist (incredulous) figured he was just a womanizer who wanted to stay that way, but she humored him and did the past life regression figuring heck!  Why not?  Nothing else had worked!

    So she hypnotizes him, facilitated the regression, and he remembered a past life in which he'd lived in ancient Rome.  A hit-man for the Caesar, he killed many enemies of the government.  He retired to a farm outside of Rome with his wife and children.  One day, his identity was uncovered and some enemies came to avenge the deaths of their friends.  They tied him up, raped his wife in front of him, and systematically cut up his children, then his wife, into teeny tiny little pieces while he watched.  

    He came out of hypnosis, suddenly "realizing" why he'd been afraid to commit... he subconsciously thought, or 'remembered',  the people he loved would be in danger by being close to him!  Once he decided his fear of commitment must have come from a past-life fear of hurting those close to him, he let his fear of commitment go and, miraculously, got married to his current-life girlfriend six months later.  Nobody was more flabbergasted than his hypnotherapist!

    Was his past life in Rome real?  Was it imagined? Who cares!  He got what he wanted! He got answers!  His girlfriend got what she wanted... a ring! He married her, had a few kids, and is now extremely happy.  

    In other news, every once in a while, something new and unexpected happens in my hypnotherapy office that makes me tingle in wonderment.  Last week, I conducted a past life regression with a young man who suddenly began speaking in a foreign language he did not know.  The session was recorded, and the foreign language was real, and it was fluent. There was no way this young person could have learned that language in this lifetime.  

    This is a phenomenon known as xenoglossy.  I had studied xenoglossy in college but hadn't encountered it personally until last week.  Do I believe in past lives?  After the xenoglossy experience, I lean toward yes, but then I remember... staying in the "Mystery" is the most powerful place to stand.  So my commitment is to embrace the wonder, the unknown, and to hold positive intention for all others to overcome their fears, their obstacles, and to realize their dreams... because that's all that really matters.

    Credo!

    Janna