Janna Colaco Certified Hypnotherapist Blog

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  • The Inner Alchemy of Spring

    Discarding outdated thinking habits can clear our inner closet and make space for compassion and love.


    Last week I found myself spontaneously buying paint for the living room.  The cashier complemented my color choice, and remarked on how many people were spring-painting their walls!


    Spring is our time to remove stale clutter and shed what is no longer needed.  A gentle breeze through an open window, soft sunlight, or the scent of fresh flowers can move us forward with enthusiasm toward a clean new perspective.


    While we clear the garden, pantry or closet, springtime offers us an opportunity to release ineffective beliefs and outdated thinking habits.  


    Some of my favorite habits to discard this Spring include:


    Questioning others’ motives.  It’s inevitable we will encounter difficult people again and again.   The proverb, “Never judge a person until you’ve walked a mile in their moccasins” reminds us we are all here for different experiences, and we shall never truly understand the path of another.


    We can never know for sure “why” someone behaves as they do.  Perhaps they have suffered.  Or maybe they took a vow to forget their own divinity in this lifetime, playing the role of villain so that we might overcome a fear or strengthen a gift. 


    Questioning others’ motives never provides the relief or closure we seek.  If we count up all the hours spent analyzing, labeling or attempting to make sense of others, we notice an increase, rather than a decrease, in our own confusion, frustration or hurt.  


    When possible, assume good intentions.   Hold them accountable by questioning only their judgement.  Their actions are under your scrutiny, not their motives.  This shift in perspective leaves their soul’s dignity and goodness intact.  This practice allows us to move toward compassion and understanding with even the most difficult souls.


    Perfectionism.  When we release perfectionism in favor of excellence, we choose self-love and worthiness.  The perfectionist who hides under baggy clothing at the beach, waiting to lose that last ten pounds, misses out on the joy of swimming and playing in the sand.  Better to shed the cover-up and participate!  Excellence implies living life to the fullest… even when we aren’t perfect.  Foregoing perfectionism takes courage.  Releasing self-consciousness is a powerful choice that frees us to create memories that last a lifetime.


    Being right.  Insistence on being right can derail personal growth.  Being right by definition automatically implies others are wrong.  The heightened energy we feel as we argue, upon closer inspection, derives its fervor and urgency from our deepest fears.


    Letting go requires courage and trust in the universe.  We release the need for things to go our way.  We can calmly offer our opinion while allowing others to do the same.  


    Outdated feelings of urgency, threat and fear are revealed as smoke and mirrors. ‘Let it go!’ becomes our mantra.  Internal windows open, cleansing mind and body, and we move forward with renewed enthusiasm for life.


  • How to Make a Holiday Hypnosis Vision Board

    When I became a Certified Hypnotherapist, I finally learned how to stop struggling with my weight over the holidays.

    I wanted the skinny body AND the cookies too, the coziness, the satisfaction, the clean house, the peace, the holiday spirit.  Once I figured out the secret to having it all, I've been helping clients do the same.  Wouldn't it be great to have the treats AND be thin?

    There following tips are designed to give you your excellent body and your cookies too, without the deprivation. 

    For your vision board, you will need:

    1.  An over-sized piece of card stock or poster board

    2.  A glue stick

    3.  A few of your favorite holiday magazines

    Cut or tear out the pictures that appeal to you the most.  Don't edit this!  Is it that aromatic home-made bread image?  The beautiful turkey?  The clean house?  The cute cookies? The Size 2 woman with the beautiful outfit?  Or maybe you love the images  of crafts, decorations or crackling fireplaces. Again, DON'T EDIT!  You want the most delicious goodies, the most amazing bodies the most well-behaved children, happiest families you can find.  The trick is to only grab what you are drawn to the most.

    Next, how do you want to feel?  cut out positive words... some examples are: 

    SLENDER

    LIGHT

    STYLISH

    COZY

    SATISFIED

    SECURE

    LOVED

    IN CONTROL

    HAPPY

    ENERGETIC

    JOYOUS

    EXCITED

    RELAXED

    GRACIOUS

    These are positive statements of how you want to feel, how you wish you could feel, or how you'd like to feel instead.  

    Paste everything collage-style on the board, both words and images, and put the vision board near your bed, where you will see it before you fall asleep, and particularly when you wake up in the morning.  

    There is a 30-minute window just prior to falling asleep, and a morning time after hitting 'snooze' but before getting up when we are in a natural state of hypnosis.  

    So, before you fall asleep and before you get up, focus on the Vision Board.  Think about the feelings you want.  

    You will do this every night, and every morning for reinforcement.

    If weight control is an issue, reflect on the fact that those who are naturally slender eat everything they want in moderation.  They know that the first few bites taste the best.  The women in your magazine images don't binge. They don't worry or wallow, they don't stress.  They don't deprive themselves.    They feel full of love and satisfaction... and that's where these images pull that cozy feeling into the subconscious mind.  

    Remember, the QUANTITY of food doesn't satisfy you, it's the quality.  The quantity is only there to numb the ache, the hurt, the emptiness.

    So, we use the vision board to put the Christmas spirit into the subconscious.  There's a belly full of joy, a satisfied feeling.  Treats can be eaten, yet you can feel satisfied after two bites of cookie.  This is the meditation you do as you gaze sleepily at your vision board, especially in the morning.  Become committed to the experience.  Allow the comfort in, and dissolve the deprivation.

    You can have your cookies, and eat them too!

    Hypnotically Yours,

    Janna